When we judge another, it positions us as superior. Is that what we really want? Do we want to set ourselves apart from others, in isolation from them? Or is it more rewarding to be inclusive?
We are raised with messages that support the separation of some people from those who are different. When when we learn to suspend judgement, we grow. We see the opportunity to make more of the whole than we can individually. Pay attention to the tapes. Whenever you find yourself judging any aspect of another person - just STOP - and think about meeting him or her where they are.
Find spirituality in individuals - their strengths, their challenges, their differences and the humanity you share.